There is something you should know about me. I’m a planner…a colour coding enthusiasts and check list fiend. My brain thinks in a default setting of getting stuff done. It is a core characteristic of who I am. Don’t even get me started on pro’s and con’s lists….*swoon*
I need to continually remind myself to relax and embrace the flow of life. Things will not always go to plan now matter how organized and well intentioned I am.
One way that this really shows up is in my physical health. I’ve struggled with body image and my relationship with food since high school. I have gone through long stretches of time where I am very regimented and strict and other times where I couldn’t remember the last time I did something healthy for myself.
This past year and a bit have taught me a lot about myself and letting go of the unrealistic, strict and sometimes unkind standards that I was holding myself to. Life has become a lot more enjoyable by giving myself permission to be imperfect.
Now how, you may ask do I reconcile the A-type, list loving personality with the new laid back, permission giving approach to life? Well…it’s not been the most glamorous transition. Mainly I repeat to myself these two very simple thoughts:
1- “Be kind to yourself (or body, or personality etc), she gets you from A to B.”
2- Perfection is not obtainable but excellence is.
How does implementing those two thoughts look? It can be as simple as catching a negative thought spiral; stopping and saying a positive thing about myself or what I’ve done. It could also be activated when I notice I’m comparing myself to other people and their seemingly perfect life. In those moments I remind myself that I’m seeing a beautifully curated moment of their life. I try to quickly follow up those thoughts of comparison by saying something that I like or admire about them to keep myself from getting bitter or jealous. I want to always champion people on and genuinely celebrate their success or accomplishments.
I hope today’s musing has been helpful for someone out there. We are all just doing our best and by simply giving yourself permission to be a work in progress is a great first step to a more balanced heart and mind.
Did you see how I snuck a list in there? #CantStopWontStop